You Are Not Alone

Even if it seems otherwise, you are not alone in this world. You didn’t come here, to this 3D world, by yourself. Each one of us has a keeper, and you can call it however you want: God, higher self, divine guide, guardian angel or whatever else tickles your fancy. For it is not the label that matters, on the contrary, intention is everything.

I looked back at my life and I couldn’t help but feel sad because I felt so alone. I had to do everything by myself. People around me seemed to not want to invest their time to help me do anything. I grew up mostly by myself and had to rely on myself to get anything done. Be it admission into school, applying for my passport, Id, tarmacking for jobs, going for interviews, searching for places to stay or big things like choosing my career, what I will cook for Eid, where I will go for vacation, absolutely everything, I had to do it myself. I know some people probably wish they had this freedom and independence, everything, if done in excess, is not good for our health and wellbeing. I crave the feeling of being helped around by someone who cares about me with just the right amount of concern, not bordering on clinginess and overprotectiveness, though. I wish I could live each day, knowing at the back of my mind that my world would not collapse if I did not wake up for a week, because I decided to take a break from doing anything. I wish, just like my friends, I had helicopter parents who always made sure I had everything I needed, and would go out of their way to accompany me to my interview, or take me to apply for my first job, or help me pick my husband, or gift me my eid dress. Life has indeed been a lonely place.

After all the pity I could spare for myself in a single lifetime, I stopped to think, wiping my tears away, “But wait Zeinab, you were never really, truly alone were you?” Something or some invisible force was always there with me, seeing me through the worst storms of my life, giving me courage to keep going and to never give up. Something was always watching over me, guiding me through my intuition, to follow a path which always somehow turned out to be the best thing I ever experienced. This fact, has made me convinced beyond any doubt, that we are never alone…not really. I am where I am today, because, even if the whole world was too busy to care, this part of me-this invisible force- was always there, heavily invested in my life, watching out for me, sending opportunities of growth and progress my way, making the unbearable, bearable, and never leaving my side not even once. I don’t know what it is, I don’t know its name, but today, right now, I want to thank it from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for being there for me, thank you for always guiding me. Thank you that everything I need I seem to get, easily, without any resistance. I am grateful and so happy. I feel blessed.

Excuses Begone! How To Change Lifelong, Self- Defeating Thinking Habits by Dr. Wayne Dyer

Dr. Wayne Dyer challenges all of us in his book Excuses Begone when he called our attention to the many excuses we have used to justify why we are choosing to remain stuck in unhappy, unfulfilled and miserable situations. excuses like: it is too difficult, I cannot afford it, there will be family drama, I am not smart enough among others have been our scapegoats to run away from taking responsibility for our own lives and actually changing them for the better.

Remember all the things which you have been postponing until now? The dream you have had for like forever, but which only remained pigments of imagination at the back of your mind but was never materialized because of one excuse or another? How about that habit you just cannot shake off, which both you and I know is not doing you any good and needs to go right now? That can of soda you must have every day or a boss you cannot refuse? These and many others are excuses which according to Dr. Wayne, we have allowed to infiltrate our lives and make us helpless.

Where do excuses come from?

Dr. Wayne opens our eyes to an astonishing truth: that indeed everything that is wrong with us comes from those things and people who surround us in our environment. He testifies that in the life of every adult person, lies a series of ideas which they absorbed from hearing what others think and say about money, for example, there being not enough of it, or abut health, there being so many ways someone can get sick, or for example, in my case, about people, there being no genuine person left on this otherwise beautiful earth. it is these ideas which have become like mind viruses, encroaching on all our dreams and sense of self worth and determination to realize those dreams. He gave an example, where if someone grew up poor, he heard from his parents how money is hard to come by, and it is through this lens he grows up to see the world. This man, no matter how much his financial state improves later in life, he still lives with fear that at any time, he could lose it and be back in poverty again. In some instances, he could feel like he does not deserve to enjoy so much money or feel like he cannot afford the lifestyle he wants and dreams of.

So how does anyone break their habit of excuses?

Dr. Wayne says, with a little bit of passion for your dreams, and imagination, you can break any old habit of thinking which has been harming you until now. He also mentions that our false sense of self, or what we call ego, is the root cause of the many excuses we give ourselves, and if one were to awaken to their higher sense of self, the god within, then all excuses would vanish. Therefore, Dr. Wayne recommends letting go of our egos, and living a spiritually-attuned lifestyle, where we practice self awareness and consciousness so we can get ahead and leave our excuses behind. Most importantly, it is through believing in our divineness, that we are divine beings i.e. souls with a body and not a body with a soul, that we can transcend any limitations brought about by our upbringing, genes, subconscious programming or our environment. To sum up, it is by living a spiritual life where we are in harmony with god within and without, and are driven not by selfish egos, but by selfless compassion for others, can we really live excuse-free lives. And I agree with him 100%.

Thank you note

Thank you Dr. Wayne Dyer for the teachings in your book. I am blessed to have been your student and send you, wherever your soul may be right now, immense energies of love and gratitude for your timeless teachings which will live on and on forever. Thank you so much for having made your life purpose and passion, our growth and evolution into better human beings through your books and lectures. Thank you!

The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer

I think google got the definition of the word, “surrender” wrong. It is not about just submitting to an enemy or raising the white flag, rather, when it comes to my life, this word means freedom; from worry, stress and overthinking about the future and my problems. This word means to me, that I stay above everything that is going on in my life, and refuse to let it control how I feel.

I believe it is this same idea of surrender Michael was discussing in his book, “the surrender experiment”. In this book, Michael Singer gives examples of the many times he just winged it. He stopped fighting for anything. He let go of the idea that we need to prepare for everything before we do it. He simply just showed up, accepted the flow of his life events without any resistance, met whoever he was supposed to meet, started whatever he felt the urge to start, welcomed whoever was looking to be part of his life. He inspired me so much to believe that there is a system to my life. That my life is not just a random occurrence, but something, someone, is genuinely interested in it and is guiding me to have the best experience from this life.

I would like to make a confession though. I did not finish reading his book. Why? Because, as is typical of our human desire, we wish to experience only good things and are put off by bad or tragic events- whether they are happening to us or we are reading about them. That is why, when it came to the part where Michael’s otherwise positive surrender experiment in his life, started bringing him less than ideal circumstances, I froze and could not read the sad parts. And this is what this post is about. Michael’s book, the parts I did not read, taught me way more than the good parts which I read. I learnt that I have been wanting to believe in these universal laws of miracles, attraction, surrender and the rest which I am not yet acquainted with, only if they bring into my life pleasant things. I would be a believer only if my life became better by practicing them, but the moment my desires don’t come fast enough, or my life keeps disappointing me, I turn away and return to my old belief system which did not serve me before, why would it suddenly serve me now?

All in all, this book is a must read if you want to start seeing the world with a fresh pair of eyes. If you want to believe that your life is not an accident, and that if you decided to surrender to your inner voice and guidance, even when it does not make sense, you would live the best life, no matter what. Granted, the ideas explained by this book might not be for everyone, as most of us are staunch believers of a reality which does not serve us, but we believe in it anyways, since we cannot be brave enough to believe in magic, however, this book could change your life and if unlike me, you can finish reading it to the end, who knows which other secrets you might find hidden in those sad parts of the book which I wasn’t brave enough to immerse myself through?

Final words on this book: let whatever happens happen. Don’t worry, if it is bad, worrying will not stop it, if it is good, you will enjoy it.

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