It is Never that serious

Life is never that serious and it would do us a lot of good to remember that. Here is why I think so:

If life was serious enough, it would be permanent, just so we can know that everything we have worked hard for will last forever. But it is not. In fact, if it is not worse, we could cease to be alive any time of the day, anywhere in the world and in the most unexpected ways. For example, I knew someone who was so happy to be alive, the life of the party, abundant, and boastful about her travels and adventures, only for her to die in the most horrific way possible-with her head severed from the rest of her body in a dreadful accident. Did she see it coming? I doubt that. Will we see our end coming? No, because nobody receives a warning when our time is up. It just is when it is.

I think taking life seriously is detrimental to our health and wellbeing. Life wasn’t meant to be taken seriously. It was meant to be enjoyed without plans for the future or regrets about our past. In fact, I find that whenever anyone worries about saving for the future or planning for it, they lose out on the precious present moment.

I tested this theory on an ant that was walking about on my desk as I watched it curiously. I wondered where the ant was going and what it was thinking as it went round and round on the desk. Is it possible that it smelled the biscuits I was eating. I took tiny crumbs and sprinkled them on the desk to see if it would be guided by its senses to find them and sure it did. What struck me perhaps, was what happened soon thereafter. Once the ant had found some of the crumbs, it picked just one and went off to somewhere-perhaps, to call its friends over to the treasure it had found. I waited excitedly, as several more ants arrived all excited to see the crumbs. One ant in particular made me smile as it chose the biggest of them all, four times its size and struggled to pull it on one of its ends towards itself in tiny determined steps. Soon after, another ant joined in to help it carry the oversized mountainous crumb to God knows where. My question was, Why are they not eating them right there and then if they were hungry? Had it been me, I would eat to my fill first and foremost, then think about carrying some back to wherever it was they were intent on going.

A careful study of the other ants which were now gathered at the crumbs revealed some insightful wisdom. Some ants picked whatever they found first and went on their merry way, thankful for the blessing. Others picked one then another and another, and had they met with some more on their way out they probably would have picked that too. I laughed because that reminded me of us humans, we cannot have enough and it helped to know that greed is a natural instinct and not just a sign of our descent to a life of discontent.

Remember, the ant that carried the biggest crumb four times its size, well, I was astonished to find that even in the ants kingdom, ambition is ever present. That tiny little creature took on a challenge bigger than itself and didn’t get scared or worried that it couldn’t handle it. Same way, as humans we should dare to take on challenges with as much bravery as that little guy.

I wanted so very much to test the theory about living in the present moment and how that can determine whether or not we enjoy the opportunities which come in the here and now or we miss them because we are worried about tomorrow, or saving for a rainy day. I gave the ants a few more seconds before I removed the crumbs. Eventually, I was going to have to remove them anyway, because I use the desk all the time to write and read and I couldn’t have all the ants in the world show up on my desk. A few seconds after, I realized that more ants had now come, to get the crumbs which were no longer there. Some of the ants were the same ones which had seen the crumbs but didn’t eat them because either, they were thinking of saving them or going some where to get reinforcements. Either way, they missed their chance. The lesson here is that we should live in the present moment and relish in what it offers instead of worrying about tomorrow or later because later is not ours. Today, right here right now is all we have. We could be throwing our chance away by thinking or hesitating, both costing us our present and most likely our future, for how could you have a better future without a well-lived present moment?

I wish to let everyone out there know that life is not as serious as we give it credit for. Life offers us only one promise and guarantee, which is our present moment. It is up to us how we choose to live in it. It does not promise us tomorrow because it has its own events. If we live like this, a day at a time, I am sure we will live happier and more fulfilled.

Que Sera Sera

Today, right here, I will take an oath that I swear not to get worried about when and how something I want will happen. I swear that as long as I shall live, I shall focus on the present moment only and stop worrying about my future. I wish to just live in the here and now without a care in the world!

The happiest people on earth must be those who live each day at a time. Imagine how freeing it would be if we all just didn’t give a dime about tomorrow. Had we all been content with our todays and paused to enjoy them mindfully, I believe anxiety and depression would not exist.

However, so many of us have forgotten how to live in the present moment and instead ruin it by spending today worrying about tomorrow. On the other hand, if we spent so much time and energy worried, you would think that would change what was already meant to happen in our future but that is rarely the case. Seeing the state of unpredictable wars, pandemics and god knows what else happening all around the world, I am convinced that no amount of worrying or foresight would have prepared us for what was already destined to happen. The future is out of our hands and there is nothing we could do to change that fact! It would serve us well to know that as much as we plan and go about our lives as if everything is going to happen according to our wishes and desires so long as we put in the necessary effort and work hard because nothing is free, most of what is waiting for us is mostly unexpected and a surprise-good or bad will depend on how hard you prayed and whether or not God likes you(I am just joking with this one).

Prayer

They say if you pray hard enough, even if it takes ten years, you will get what you prayed for. However, nobody said how we were going to survive those years we spend waiting. In the same way, nobody said how we were supposed to bear seeing everyone around us receive quite so easily what would be the things we need most in life more than anyone else. It is frustrating to pray and not see anything change. It is even more depressing to wait on the Lord when you know he is an abundant God who, if he wills can make anything happen before we even have time to blink. In order to feel better we tell ourselves how God is protecting us from what we want that is why we don’t get it, but if he is the Omniscient and Omnipotent Almighty God, I am sure he could just as easily replace what was bad with better and give us that in the same amount of time it would take him to bring the sunrise tomorrow morning! So, the question is, why is God so slow in answering the prayers of his humans who need him the most? I don’t know but what I know is this: That no amount of relentless praying would ever change what God has decided. If it is just not the time for me and you to get married to our dream spouses and live in our dream homes, it is just not yet our time. Simple!

Way forward

Now that we have established the fact that it does not matter the amount of prayers you send up to the sky, what matters is whether your time to receive and enjoy what you desire has come or not, there is no reason to remain frustrated or worried because we don’t yet have what we want(or in extreme situations, what we absolutely must get to survive in which case we are screwed). Worrying will not speed up our timeline nor is it of any help to feel jealous over other people’s blessings which they seem to get without wanting or needing them. And Bam! Perhaps I have answered my own question. The very fact that we obsess over the stuff we want could be working against us by making those things take even longer to come. Maybe if we just let them go and said, “fluff off I don’t need you,” they will magically start chasing after us(I mean, it works with men).

Detachment from attachment

“Pray about it and let it go.” I must have heard this statement a thousand times. In retrospect, I must also have written a post before about why we shouldn’t pray for what we want. I thought I was wrong because praying is good and it never hurt anyone to ask God for a favor or two. Can it be perhaps, God does not want to be pestered about what we want all the time and instead he would much rather if we simply had faith that he already knew our desires and has been preparing them for us or rather, us for them.

It is crazy that God should take too long to create anything anyone wants no matter how big and impossible it seems, when he created the whole world and everything we know from nothing in just 6 days! I mean what I want is dust compared to the whole universe/s.

Therefore, I can’t help but feel, like it is all about when the time is right in God’s eyes and not our own. When he deems it is the right time for us to get married, so what if we are sixty? As long as in his eyes that is the right time, then so be it! Remember guys, we didn’t even get consulted about coming here to join this freak show we call life in the first place, so why would anyone ask us how we wish to live it? It seems a bit presumptuous of everyone to think they could live life on their terms when they couldn’t stop growing old and dying even if they worked hard all their life to avoid it. This life is like that gift you can’t return, because it would be impolite to do so and you can’t fully call your own either, because the person who gifted it to you wants you to use it based on their own terms and conditions. My advice: let us just enjoy whatever we get offered in life and call it a day, shall we? One day we will all die and what is eating our heads right now won’t even matter when we kick that dreaded bucket. Why bother? Let’s just live, que sera sera!

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